8 Mistakes Highly Confident People Never Make
What is self-confidence? It’s the ability to face failure with a positive attitude towards self and life. Confidence develops when we have faith in our abilities.
Highly Confident people also have developed their confidence in overtime. These people have inculcated a few habits in their everyday lives so as to not lose confidence. Let’s discuss what are these habits.
1. They don’t mind what others think of them
Confident people don’t give weightage to the judgment of others. It’s not like they never listen to advice or feedback but, confident people seek out legitimate, constructive feedback. Confident people get their pride, satisfaction, and happiness from within themselves. They’re confident in the stoic, inner pride sort of way, not the “look how great I am” glory-receiving external-validation sort of way.This discipline comes from their capability to destroy negative thoughts that are often centred on what they think others feel about them. Confident people don’t compare themselves to others.
You are who you are at this life, and if you’re taking action and doing your best to provide something to the world, it doesn’t matter how you scale up to everyone else. Confident people give the same freedom to others, avoiding judgment in favour of recognizing that everyone has some talents to bring to the table.
2. They believe it’s impossible to be always Right
Ego provides fake confidence, which is like a house of cards and will collapse at the very first problem it faces. This fake confidence also makes people take incorrect risks, leading to their failure. True and genuine Confidence comes from inculcating a process of learning in our lives, which lead us to assume that we can never have complete knowledge and still things are present to learn. Wilbur and Orville Wright, the pioneers of flight, were extremely curious. They also lacked a college education. This gave them the confidence to move forward without questioning and testing everything. At every step, the Wright brothers knew they didn’t have an answer, so they continuously experimented and discussed to learn. Truly confident people put the truth first, which sometimes means being proved wrong. And that’s a good thing.
Ego provides fake confidence, which is like a house of cards and will collapse at the very first problem it faces. This fake confidence also makes people take incorrect risks, leading to their failure. True and genuine Confidence comes from inculcating a process of learning in our lives, which lead us to assume that we can never have complete knowledge and still things are present to learn. Wilbur and Orville Wright, the pioneers of flight, were extremely curious. They also lacked a college education. This gave them the confidence to move forward without questioning and testing everything. At every step, the Wright brothers knew they didn’t have an answer, so they continuously experimented and discussed to learn. Truly confident people put the truth first, which sometimes means being proved wrong. And that’s a good thing.
3. They Listen More and Speak Less
Listening is the best way to learn anything. Strongly confident people develop the skill of active listening to learn new things in every interaction they have. Listening to people instead of piping your own tunes to the world is a quality people rarely possess. If you start listening more to someone, they develop an instant liking towards you.
Talking less and listening more is not the same as agreeing with people. You may ultimately disagree with what a person is saying or feeling, but while you’re listening, you’re not imposing your views on the person. It takes an incredibly mature person to master this skill.
When we are mature and confident enough to set aside our own agenda long enough to get into the hearts and minds of those important to us, we not only get to solutions quicker, but we offer them our best selves.
Listening is the best way to learn anything. Strongly confident people develop the skill of active listening to learn new things in every interaction they have. Listening to people instead of piping your own tunes to the world is a quality people rarely possess. If you start listening more to someone, they develop an instant liking towards you.
Talking less and listening more is not the same as agreeing with people. You may ultimately disagree with what a person is saying or feeling, but while you’re listening, you’re not imposing your views on the person. It takes an incredibly mature person to master this skill.
When we are mature and confident enough to set aside our own agenda long enough to get into the hearts and minds of those important to us, we not only get to solutions quicker, but we offer them our best selves.
4. They don’t do things alone
Confident people always know that it’s extremely hard to survive on our own. Any individual does not have all the talents and qualities. To survive and succeed in this highly competitive world, confident people band together with people of different skills. This gives them edge over all others as they have friends who possess talents which they don’t and they all help each other.
People who are confident they never back-down from asking for help. They know that they cannot be a superhero and save the world completely on their own. Instead, they seek advice and help from people who are experts in their fields.
5. They don’t take things Personally
When being faced with criticism its very easy to take things to heart. Confident people after listening to criticism run a filtering process. They filter out rude and not useful information and then pick actual advises from the criticism in a constructive way.Constructively taking failures and criticism will provide mental and professional growth to all individuals. Not taking things personally gives you more control over how you respond, your emotions and your energy level.
6. They expect Uncertainty
Helen Keller once said, “optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence.”
Confident people are optimistic about the ends but they never are afraid of them failing. They are always optimistic to succeed but they are always prepared with a PLAN B in case their endeavour fails.
They expect the uncertainty of outcomes and future.
7. They don’t portray others in a bad light
Imagine an office team, when you make your boss and team members look good, everyone benefits. And this leads to new opportunities, people that trust you as a team member, and ultimately greater confidence. The most inspiring leaders are those who give credit to the team for all of the hard work. Ask yourself this question daily “What good shall I do today?”. Confident people focus on uplifting people and making them look good, which in turn increases their own self-worth.
Imagine an office team, when you make your boss and team members look good, everyone benefits. And this leads to new opportunities, people that trust you as a team member, and ultimately greater confidence. The most inspiring leaders are those who give credit to the team for all of the hard work. Ask yourself this question daily “What good shall I do today?”. Confident people focus on uplifting people and making them look good, which in turn increases their own self-worth.
8. They don’t include just anyone in their close circle
“An amazing thing happens when you stop seeking approval and validation: You find it. People are naturally drawn like magnets to those who know who they are and cannot be shaken!”- Mandy Hale. Confident people believe in themselves and follow their heart. Earlier we discussed that they don’t care what others think of them, but they do value the opinion and suggestions of people that are close to them, family and friends.
To be able to trust the opinions and views of these people, you need to eliminate the negative people from your lives and only have people in your close circle who will always have your back.
Think about the people you hang out with on a daily basis. Do they have your back? Can you share your dreams and ideas with them without getting shot down? If not, think about working on only the best relationships if you want to be truly confident.
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