Overcome Bad Memories: Get Over Hurt

We all have some bad memories, some deep hurts in our hearts. When these memories come to the surface we seem to get agitated, frustrated and angered. These are the emotions which are suppressed in our minds which resurface and make us lose our peace of mind. There are a few steps following which we can overcome these bad memories, get over our hurt.The emotions which we suppress don’t let us grow in life. We hold grudges, hate and get angry for someone who has hurt us. But, this is not the right way to live your life.Let me help you from my experience, these all are tested and tried method to overcome the bad memories we’ve had.

Let in The Hurt

The first step to moving on would be to feel the hurt. Let in and relive all those hurtful moments. Doing so you will bring all the repressed feelings to the surface and nothing would be left buried or hidden. Feel each and every emotion that you felt and that you hid in your heart, completely. This would be your last chance to even think about the pain that you felt.Recalling the specific bad memories will help you overcome bad memories and get over the hurt.Make a decision to move on..No one can just forget and easily move on from a hurtful past. For moving on you need to make up your mind and decide that you wish to move on.You can ‘let go’ only if you make a conscious decision to let those feelings out of your heart. Trust me this is very empowering. Knowing you have power over your mind. You decide what stays in your mind and what doesn’t. Making this decision will make you feel confident and powerful. Use this positive energy in jotting down the feelings you had, the memories which haunted you, and the emotions that you felt.Write speak or cry, but let it out

Once you have made a note of what your emotions, thoughts, and feelings were. This note can be on paper or in your mind. Now it’s the time where you vent it out. Write down a letter, a journal, speak to someone, or seek the help of a psychiatrist but, start talking and let those emotions out of mind.A small suggestion, while speaking out start your sentences with ‘I’ this empowers you to let out every emotion hiding inside.Letting your feelings out is good for your health. A lot of doctors advise against holding in your emotions as suppressed feelings lead to anxiety, depression, headaches and high blood pressure.

Have your own back

Keep in mind what happened was not your fault. Remember you’re not a culprit but, a survivor who fought to come out of a tough situation. In moments when you feel vulnerable keep your family, your trustworthy friends near.

You shouldn’t blame yourself or anyone else for what you faced. Why not? Because when you blame someone you give them power on yourself. Power to make you feel less. Playing a victim and blaming someone else makes you a weaker person. It shows that the other person has power on you and takes away your peace of mind. It stops you from moving forward.

So have your own back. Tell yourself that now you’re stronger. Admire yourself for the way you evolved out of adversity.

Move away from that situation

If you are currently in a situation that causes you great hurt, move away from it immediately! Distance yourself from the people, the place, or the things that demotivate you and remind you of the past. Allow yourself some time away, to clear your head and start afresh.

Don’t change for anyone

Be it bullying, harassment, or others you have a choice to keep living your life the way you want. Do not change your life for anyone who taunts you or advises you against your choices. There might be people who would be talking behind your back and letting you know at the same time that the way you live on your ideologies wrong the best way to overcome these stones or remarks is Tu do not change and keep living the way you do.Keep living the life that you want and don’t change for anyone. Bullying, harassment or other bad experiences often lead to us shying away from our choices. People might talk behind your back; they might make you feel guilty for your life choices. But remember, insecure people, make others feel small and compassionate people make everyone positive and grand. So, you don’t let these mean and insecure people get into your mind. You live and enjoy life on your own terms.

Forgive but don’t forget

Try forgiving people for their hurtful comments as ‘they are just reflections of how hurt and broken they are from the inside’. I understand that it would be very hard to forgive someone who has hurt you deeply. The best solution is to forgive them but do not forget what they did. This gives you the power over your emotions and will make you the bigger person.There might come a situation where you would have a choice to sink to a lower level of the person who hurt you. Do your best to refrain from doing anything that is wrong.

Love yourself everyday

Take up a self-care routine; see good movies; eat your favourite healthy food; take long showers or baths whatever is your thing; start meditating and see the difference in yourself. Do all these because you are Precious!