Build Self Confidence In 5 Quick Steps

 Today I want to give you five easy steps to build your self-confidence. I get many questions about what do I do, I feel really bad about myself. And I want to give you some easy steps to building your own self-confidence. Because when we believe in ourselves and we know that we can do things and we can achieve things, we actually do. There are honestly so many ways to Build Self Confidence, I’m only giving you five today, but there are so many other ways that we can work to build our self-confidence. So, if any of you have tips that you’d like to leave, let me know below.

#1. Groom yourself, dress nicely.

You’d be surprised how much better we feel about ourselves when we are showered when we are wearing an outfit that we feel good in. And I know this seems specific to girls, but guys are the same. If you are clean-shaven, you’re wearing a nice outfit, and you’re headed in somewhere, and you feel like I am ready to kick some ass. There’s something about being dressed nicely, being clean and groomed that makes us feel so much better about ourselves. And that’s something that is actually pretty easy to take care of.

#2. Think Positively

I talk all the time about having that negative voice and that positive voice, but let’s actually do it. We have to kill those negative thoughts. We can’t let them live in our lives all the time. And taking notice of how often we’re thinking negative things, like “I can’t do this. This is terrible. It’s never going to work. Blah, blah, blah.” The longer we spend feeling bad about ourselves. So, stop it! Notice! Think positive! Be like, “I can. I’m amazing. This is going to happen because I want it to.” And if we can turn around those negative thoughts, and we can squash them, get rid of them, and turn them into positive. We’ll not only feel better and like have an air of confidence about ourselves, but we’ll also get so much more accomplished. And we’ll actually start achieving our goals.

#3. Act Positive.

Sometimes the quote that I use a lot is “Fake it ’til you make it.” Because oftentimes by volunteering, by getting out and spending time with people who build us up, and being friendly to people. Be generous. Be welcoming to people at the coffee shop. “Oh hi, let me get that door for you. Thank you so much. You’re so nice. Oh, that made my day.” Being friendly to other people and acting in a positive manner can totally turn it around for us. And I even have that experience in my life. If I get up and I’m running late and I go to the coffee shop they’re like drip coffee only. I don’t like drip coffee. I drove extra to go over here and get this coffee from you, and now you can’t make it. And I could have really let myself feel really bad, but instead, I decided to act positively. Open the door for this little lady. “Hi, good morning, good to see you hope you have a good day.” And my day turned around. So, if you can’t make it, we can fake it. It’s okay.

#4. Get prepared.

You don’t want to go somewhere, to a test or to an interview or meet new people without feeling prepared for it. This can be anything from like me taking my licensing exam. I studied my ass off. I took practice exams. I took practice quizzes. I practised practice flashcard flash card so that I felt prepared. Because oftentimes we almost set ourselves up to feel bad. Like we will go into an interview, and we’ll stress about it. And we won’t even do anything to prepare for it. And then we sit there and they ask us questions. And we don’t know what to say. That just recapitulates that negative thinking. And so, we’ll keep thinking “You, see I am a dumb idiot.” But you’re not. We’re not. We just weren’t prepared. So, whatever it is that you’re going to do, even if you’re going to a friend’s house, and you know you’re going to go out that night bring a couple of pairs of clothes that you feel good in. Like I said in number one, dressing nice. You want to prepare for it. You want to make sure you get enough sleep because you’re going to be out late. Maybe, you know, there are things we can do to prepare ourselves for success. And the more prepared we are, the better we’ll feel about ourselves.

#5. Set Achievable Goals

Now, this doesn’t mean get an “A” in science or land that new job. Those are not small goals. Small goals are making each one of these things a habit: this week I’m going to shower and dress nicely 3 days. Today I’m going to make sure that I’m friendly to one person. Those are small goals because guess what? When we achieve those small goals, we feel even better about ourselves. And we’re like “Yeah, yeah, put a check in that box, that thing that I was going to do this week” So each week I encourage you to set small goals working towards the things that I just mentioned. So, whether it’s I’m going to get out of bed, I’m going to shower, and I’m going to care how I look. I’m going to dress nice. Two days. One days. Whatever it is. I’m going to be nice to one person. I’m going to get out and prepare for that test that’s coming up in two weeks. Today I’m going to prepare for thirty minutes. Whatever it is, set those small goals, because each time you achieve them, you’ll feel better and better.

And I promise, if we’re working together and we’re working these tools, we will start to feel better about ourselves. And then, the world is our oyster. Right. We can do whatever we want. And we’re a force to be reckoned with. So, keep checking back. What helps build your self-confidence?